Truth, Love, & Freedom

Happy New Year!

On behalf of the entire Sacred Science team, I want to wish you a 2025 filled with blessings and continued awakening.

Hanging out with my friends and family over the past month, I’ve noticed a pretty beautiful thing. It seems like everyone is stepping into a new version of themselves right now… realizing who they really are and what they want this life to look like.

Does that sound like you too?

Maybe it was written in the stars that the road through 2024 would take us to the next level of inner evolution. Stepping us toward a more interconnected and cosmically aligned existence.

This upcoming year could be a powerful one, but we have to travel light in order to reach the promised land. There’s no room for old stories, thought constructs, or stale beliefs. We’ve gotta dump that cargo in order to be light enough for a quantum leap.

Easier said than done, right?

Well, I’ve got a deceivingly simple challenge / exercise that will transform your life quickly… if you’re willing to try it.

It’s simple really. Start telling the unabashed truth in every interaction you have. (Gently of course.)

Your first reaction to this gauntlet drop might be, “I’m an honest person! How dare you assume otherwise,” or “Aha! I know exactly the kind of trickster that Nick is referring to.” Allow me to clarify.

First off, let’s define what we mean by dishonesty. We all agree on the biggies – cheating, stealing, and the age-old bold-faced lie. But there are more subtle violations that we engage in without even thinking about it. These are often the culprit behind feelings of stuckness, lostness, and overall not-enough-ness.

The terrible trio below derails millions of souls every minute:

1. White lies – telling a friend you can’t make it for a made up reason, usually justified under the auspices of not hurting their feelings.

2. Casual exaggeration – overplaying or downplaying the facts in a story in order to make ourselves appear right, good, heroic, or more lovable.

3. Gossip – we all know what this is, but let’s put words to it. The discussion of someone else’s affairs with a 3rd party, often with the justification that you’re both just concerned and trying to help said person.

These subtle slips of integrity may seem trivial, but they’re actually a symptom of something much deeper that is ripe to be worked with in 2025.

In order to succumb to the social pressures that underlie the bad habits above, you must first be willing to sacrifice your integrity. But who on earth would want to do that? Our culture was built on protagonist fairy tales and heroic Hollywood films. And half of the population prays to a God and a number of different messiah figures – all of whom are stand-up role models emanating kindness and compassion.

And yet, dishonesty in its many forms creeps into the lives of even the holiest among us.

How?

The Beatles were right… AGAIN. It’s All About Love.

I humbly present a largely unoriginal theory that’s steeped in the bold trauma work of globally recognized experts like Gabor Mate (author of “When The Body Says No”) and Peter Levine (author of “Waking The Tiger”).

To know what would drive a person to sacrifice their integrity and lie, we need to remember what we ourselves wanted most when we were little.

Before we cared about status, recognition, material wealth, thrills of romance, or who was going to win the upcoming election… what we wanted most was to be loved.

Aside from basic nourishment and physical warmth, love mattered above all else. And it turns out that when you take that love away, most people will do just about anything to get it back.

We might have first experienced this hunger for love as we progressed through elementary school. The affection that was easy to come by as infants and toddlers maybe became a bit more conditional – based on academic performance, adherence to cultural rules, and usefulness in domestic life. Without realizing it, we parents sometimes use love / connection as a carrot to lead our offspring toward making the right decision in the moment. It can be so subtle, but a parent’s approval or disapproval carries immense energetic weight.

When love becomes a scarce resource at home, a child begins to feel alone. Abandoned even. They begin seeking that lost attention from other sources – friends, teachers, lovers, popular kids… and this is where the white lies, exaggerations, gossip, and other made-up façades begin. The pressure mounts to make ourselves into the most desirable (lovable) image we can, like a chameleon shifting color in order to survive in our environment.

Get this – affection / touch is actually a metric used to predict survival rate in rats – this has been extensively researched since 1922. While touch isn’t the same as love, there is something to be said about the fact that a baby rat who is touched has a 600% higher survival rate than one who is not. (If you want to dive into the science, here’s a great resource with other related studies referenced below it.)

This “New Year’s Truth Challenge” is based on the notion that there is a direct connection between the casual mistruths listed above and our fear of not being lovable. You don’t need to use a rational scientific mindset to understand how these two things are related – just try not to do the terrible trio above. Stay present to the subtle energies that arise each time you’re tested. Trace out the discomfort that comes from just being plain-old-you, warts and all. I have a feeling you’ll find something out about yourself.

I’ve been doing this radical truth thing for a while now and I’ve noticed a few things – 1) Every time I choose truth in the face of discomfort I’m given information as to why the urge toward deception was there in the first place. 2) I can then map that data into a constellation that traces out my unique wounding picture. 3) Once it’s all visible, it can be healed. 4) Sometimes the act of simply “seeing” the wound is half the battle.

“The wound is where the light enters you.” – Rumi

A small warning – this exercise is a trust fall. It takes guts to start voicing your needs, fears, and embarrassing shortcomings to those around you. Will they accept and love you still? Not to spoil your experiment, but 99% of the time you’ll find people will relate to you even more deeply. What’s more, you’ve now given them permission to take off their own mask.

Healing is a contact sport 🙂

Stay curious,

Nick Polizzi
Founder of The Sacred Science

PS: When it comes right down to it, what if the only person who needs to love you… is you?